Kim Vang, Stavanger, Norway
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Irresistible Wifey Coach Kim
Kim Vang is a Kurdish-Norwegian relationship coach shortly clocking out of his twenties. Relevant to his coaching practice, he was an A student in high school social subjects such as sociology, as well as an A student in video marketing in social media in college. He’s also been a Buddhist monk in Thailand, and he holds multiple CPD-accredited life coaching certifications. All in all, he has a deep understanding of interpersonal dynamics, behavioral psychology, and the mind.
What is your niche (coaching focus) and how did you choose it?
I help attractive women go from casual hell to commitment heaven. I started applying my coaching skills to this transformation after noticing most women want something serious, but aren’t getting it from men. It was sort of just assumed that men only want sex. But as a man, I asked myself why I didn’t want to commit to those I’ve been with. You see, I had been with casual partners that wanted something more serious, and, since I liked them, I was willing to give it a shot. Ultimately, I couldn’t commit to them, though, no matter how much I loved them. By combining my own experiences with insights from my background in both marketing (which is really just behavioral psychology) and life coaching (particularly cognitive behavioral techniques), I was able to identify both the key traits, skills and beliefs I needed to see before committing to someone, as well as how to develop those traits, skills and beliefs. Realizing the intense pain these women were going through, and that the traits, skills, and beliefs they needed were neither unattainable nor went against anybody’s core personality, I saw my opportunity to serve.
Who is your ideal client?
My ideal clients are attractive women in their early 30s. They don’t struggle to get one-night stands, flings and casual relationships, but they can never seem to get commitment from men they admire. Furthermore, my ideal clients are successful and happy with their careers. This means they want a life partner, not a breadwinner, and they have the mental bandwidth to focus on their love life.
What inspired you to become a life coach?
I wanted to become an entrepreneur. I took stock of what I knew best and realized I had dedicated most of my life to understanding and improving myself. It only made sense to create a business within the life coaching space.
How long have you been coaching?
It’s been roughly six months now.
How did you get your first client?
An acquaintance shared with me she was struggling to get commitment from the man she was seeing. He was just stringing her along, without making any effort to move things to the next level. She assumed it was his problem, but through a powerful, free coaching session, we created a breakthrough, an a-ha moment for her, that had her realize how she was keeping him on the fence. After she experienced the shift in their relationship as a result of her breakthrough, but still wasn’t satisfied, I offered to help her discover what else was in the way.
How has your coaching journey changed your life?
It has changed the lives of my clients. I now get to wake up every morning knowing that there are women out there in lifelong, deep, fulfilling relationships because of me, whereas before there were bad dates, bad sex, self-doubt, frustration, disgust, fear, and even a little bit of panic. I know they are better people because of the work we’ve done together, and that this will even have a ripple effect on their children if they choose to become mothers. And I know that there are countless more out there needing my help. Many people are rich, but few people wake up with such a strong purpose. Beyond this purpose, my clients do pay me handsomely, and I mostly coach them online. This has given me an unprecedented level of both financial and location freedom, taking me to Life 2.0!
What is the most challenging part of being a life coach?
Caring too much about people who aren’t coachable. I want to change the lives of everyone who wants what I offer, but not everyone is willing to do the work.
What is the most fulfilling part of being a life coach?
Actually, the most fulfilling moments must be when clients call me to share all about their shifts in how they’re being treated. After developing the key traits, skills, and beliefs I coach them on, it just attracts a totally different side of men. This, in turn, opens my clients to feelings of being worthy and special that they’ve never felt before… There’s this moment when they realize, even if they haven’t found the one, they know their dating life will never be the same again. They’ll never go back to just being somebody’s booty call.
What has been your most inspirational coaching moment, with a client?
A client was calling me to share about her shift, and she broke down in tears. I broke down in tears myself. Her pain was finally over, and it was all because of me.
What is your favorite coaching activity or exercise to do with clients?
My favorite is breakthrough coaching. By using the correct tone of voice and asking the right questions, I’m able to lead my clients to illuminate exactly the mental blind spots that have been holding them back. I can give my clients a list of what traits, skills, and beliefs they probably lack and how to work on them, but most of the time we’re not able to accurately assess ourselves. We may think we have a trait, skill, or belief when we don’t. And this stops us from doing something about it. Breakthrough coaching is also where I feel I add the most value. While there are undoubtedly many others who know what skills, traits, and beliefs one needs to attract commitment from a prospective partner, few are able to lead their clients through the personal transformations necessary to benefit from this knowledge.
What has been the most effective strategy for finding clients and/or growing your business?
So far I’ve been doing good via word-of-mouth. I’m now looking to take things to the next level by creating organic content on TikTok and paid campaigns on YouTube.
What advice would you give YOURSELF back when you first dreamed of becoming a coach?
What’s the biggest pain you’ve seen people with money experience that wouldn’t be there if they had different skills, traits, and/or beliefs?
What is the impact you want to make in this world?
I want to contribute to more love and freedom.
Is there anything else you would like to share with Transformation Coaching Magazine readers?
My TikTok is brand new, so there might still not be any content there if you check it out. But if you would potentially want to work with me, or have me on your podcast or other media channel, you can reach me in my TikTok DMs [direct messages]. My DMs are open to all who follow me.