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By Arielle Giordano
Accept that you are 100 percent responsible for whatever is happening in your life.
Recently, I was talking to a friend, and she told me about her husband’s upsetting behaviors. The focus of our conversation was his faults—and she had plenty of examples that justified her cause for discomfort and distress. While listening to her, I had an “aha moment.” I realized that we are all responsible for our own actions, behavior, and life. And that the only person we need to change is ourselves. Honesty reveals the part we play in a situation.
Owning it means you accept that you are 100 percent responsible for whatever is happening in your life. Any issue or problem in your life—own it! There is no blame game in truth.
You and your situation will never change—and you will not truly heal—until you see your part. If you are in a relationship and your partner is not acting or loving you the way you desire, take ownership. Take an honest look and see the part you are playing in the situation. Are you enabling the behavior? Acknowledging the situation and knowing the part you play brings the awareness back to you. When you are being honest with yourself, you own the experience and can see the truth; as a result, you see the situation in a new way.
The purpose of life experiences is learning. After a tree goes through a storm, its energy goes into shoring up its roots. The tree knows where to put that energy to strengthen itself, and over time the roots of the tree become storm-proof. It is not about the damage done; it is the weakness exposed and then addressed to make the tree stronger.
See from within, and you will access what you deeply know as Truth in any situation. As you stay in that place of observation, your thinking opens and your mind becomes clear. Your perspective broadens. You are now ready to weather the storms of life and become stronger in the process.
Arielle Giordano’s new book, Dancing with Your Story from the Inside Out, was released in March 2017. With a Masters of Arts and Masters of Education, Arielle is an author, professional dancer, inspirational speaker, certified Essentrics/Aging Backwards instructor, and workshop facilitator. She enjoys sharing her gifts and talents with an
authentic style rich in the grace of dance, psychology, philosophy and the expressive arts. Her career includes: provisional psychologist, guidance counselor and substance-abuse therapist. As a Lead Faculty Area Chairperson and Faculty Member for College of Humanities at the University of Phoenix, she inspired students with her creative gifts. She also writes for Tampa Bay Wellness, We Woman and Transformation Magazine.