There is nothing wrong with you except the thought/feeling that there is something wrong with you.—Jeff Foster
Suppose somebody programs a computer to add extra numbers every time. When you discover the output doesn’t jibe, you correct the program.
No matter how many program fixes you have to make, there’s nothing wrong with the computer.
No matter how messed up your emotional programs (BS—Belief Systems) may GET, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Your emotions had novice programmers, so you got:
Input: “What is” seen through BS that says, “It’s Not OK.”
Output you get: Anger, guilt, fear, frustration—misery.
What if you get a better programmer?
Input: “What is” seen through BS that says “It’s OK.”
Output you get: Perceptiveness, love, inner peace—happiness.
It’s still the same you. You just process life’s data better.
You Make Me Feel…
The good news: Nobody has the power to make you feel bad. It’s all a matter of your own BS when somebody or something doesn’t fit your picture of how it should be.
The bad news: Nobody has the power to make you feel good. It’s all a matter of your own BS when somebody or something fits your picture of how it should be.
The key is “response ability.” You and only you can change your emotional response. Here’s what happens when you believe that happiness comes from outside of you.
The Power Struggle
Many would have you think you are powerful, and you don’t have to put up with any stimulus you don’t like. Just take control of the situation and whip it into shape.
So you punish, guilt trip, and manipulate as much as you can get away with. They all involve trying to control the people or situation you don’t like.
How’s that workin’ out for you?
When you meet resistance, you have a power struggle. It destines you to strive for happiness, or to worry you might lose it.
You ALWAYS meet resistance, and suppression breeds resentment.
In relationships, some who mean well suggest compromise. “I’ll give up some of what I want if you give up some of what you want. I’ll be less of me, you’ll be less of you, and neither of us will be completely satisfied.”
Doesn’t that sound like fun?
You can’t control other people or situations. When you try, the best you can get is temporary satisfaction.
Ubiquitous beliefs confuse happiness with satisfaction. It’s easy to see how well-meaning folks can get confused. They try to satisfy their needs (BS) and happiness eludes them in the process. They could upgrade to better BS.
Power Without Struggle
People do what they do. The world does what it does. You have little control over it, but virtually unlimited power over how you feel about it.
That’s right! You don’t have to change the world. Program your emotional computer with better BS. It’s that simple. You’ll also discover it’s that easy.
The hard part is to be willing to change. You’ve lived with the toxic BS all your life, and it fits like an old shoe. It’s comfortable, even if it gets in the way of your happiness.
When you’ve suffered enough, it helps to remember that feeling good feels better than feeling bad.
Then it’s time to jump the “J”s.
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Gregg Sanderson is author of Spirit With A Smile, The World According To BOB. He is a licensed practitioner inthe Centers for Spiritual Living, and a Certified Trainer for Infinite Possibilities. His earlier books were, What EverHappened To Happily Ever After? and Split Happens—Easing The Pain Of Divorce. His latest project is the NewThought Global Network, where subscribers can enjoy the best in New Thought presentations from anywhereat any time. You can see it at www.newthoughtglobal.org.