Shape up so I can love you unconditionally.
“I used to love him unconditionally, but I don’t anymore,” she confessed in a counseling session. She realized it was because he no longer met her conditions.
Many people define love based on the books they read, the church they go to, or who’s their current crush.
People, events or circumstances may stimulate your love, but they never create it. Right now you are capable of all the love you’ll ever want. It’s a part of you.
If that sounds like BS (belief system) to you, it is. Hucksters, TV, and fairy tales tell us love is something you have to earn, find or trade. They think it’s a commodity, right up there with soybeans and pork bellies.
When you love unconditionally, you feel good no matter what’s going on. We call it emotional acceptance.
Traditional ideas about love are built around need. A jillion songs say, “I love you, I need you.” Psychological punditry proclaims relationships are about filling needs.
Upgrade to better BS and experience unconditional love.
All you Love is Need
You approach love asymptotically, so you feel noticeably better with every step you take. Nobody I know, however, has ever made it 100 percent of the time.
Love and need don’t coexist. It’s like light and dark. When you turn on the light, the darkness disappears.
There are many feelings that fit the category of love: mellowness, satisfaction, warmth, appreciation, enthusiasm, excitement, confidence, joy, happiness, bliss.
We have even more triggered by need: irritation, frustration, annoyance, hurt, anger, resentment, fear, jealousy, grief, terror, guilt, worry…and on and on.
Needy BS says, “Find your Love.” Better BS says, “Set it free.” What holds you back? Your needy BS.
To upgrade your BS, you have to figure out what to let go of and what to replace it with. That can get complicated. What can you tell your subconscious to be sure you create better BS?
At first glance, the task seems insurmountable. All those old feelings to release and new upgrades to replace them.
Remember, everything your mind accepts is BS. How can you be sure you get better BS? Perhaps we can find one word for ALL the nuances of love, and another for ALL the yucky stuff.
How about “OK” and “Not OK.” There are degrees of each, but it all boils down to the fact you either feel OK or you don’t. Your mind doesn’t need any more than that, and this realization can change your life
Next month, we’ll show you the astounding difference this simple viewpoint can make in your personal happiness.
Gregg Sanderson is author of Spirit With A Smile, The World According To BOB. He is a licensed practitioner in the Centers for Spiritual Living, and a Certified Trainer for Infinite Possibilities. His earlier books were, What Ever Happened To Happily Ever After? and Split Happens—Easing The Pain Of Divorce. His latest project is the New Thought Global Network, where subscribers can enjoy the best in New Thought presentations from anywhere at any time. You can see it at www.newthoughtglobal.org.