With a full moon glowing on my pre-dawn beach walk along beautiful Siesta Key in Sarasota, FL, I began to ponder how each of us could better communicate with our own powerful subconscious mind and with our own deepest wisdom.
The first realization that came to me was the power of words. As a hypnotherapist, I have developed great respect for the spoken word, as this is the tool I use to help clients turn their lives around. Through the power of speech and energy, I have seen true miracles happen—phobias cured, 50-year-old habits gone, depression lifted and pounds of pain melted away.
Your Subconscious Mind
What’s the secret? It’s resonance. It’s interesting that words are very much like food, where one man’s meat (or diet) is another man’s poison—literally. In the same way, certain words, such as “love” and “God,” can bring great healing and peace to someone, while for another person these very same words can trigger fear, repulsion, anger or shutting down.
This isn’t good or bad—it just is. It’s important to understand differing internal associations can words have when you’re communicating with others, and it’s most helpful to understand when connecting with your self.
In your subconscious mind there is a library of thousands and thousands of pictures. These are memories from your past and ideas and scenes that you have witnessed throughout your life. Some say we even carry the images and experiences of our ancestors and the collective species within the depths of our being.
Words simply trigger these images. That’s why there is no point in arguing with someone’s reaction to a word or belief. It doesn’t mean anything. In other words, when you find yourself negatively reacting to someone’s ideology, it may just be that he or she has certain personality characteristics that you don’t like. It also might be equally true that the only reason other people feel as they do is because of the pictures in their mind guiding them.
The good news is that these images are not locked in stone. In fact, advertisers and the media are working on us all day long in an attempt to get us to align our inner thoughts/pictures/beliefs with whatever they want us to buy or opt into.
The Two Drivers of the Subconscious Mind
The way the subconscious mind works is simple. We have two types of images/beliefs/drivers. One is Love and the other is Fear. Over time, we create our life experience, to a large degree, based on whether we cultivate our fearful/painful thoughts/memories or our loving, forgiving, peaceful beliefs and experiences.
The challenge is that it’s nearly impossible to force loving and positive thoughts if that’s not how we are actually feeling. Yet, the fact remains that the more we come from pain and focus on pain, the more difficulty we tend to continue to feel. So how can we escape this trap?
This is the point of meditation, mindfulness and self-hypnosis. By simply opening our awareness of the pain that we are feeling, it naturally begins to shift and change. There’s a big difference between recognizing emotional pain and repeating the negative beliefs that perpetuate it, in our own mind, by replaying victim scenarios that are so real and disturbing.
How to Cultivate Happiness
If your goal is to cultivate happiness, strength, inner power and a bright future, where the greatest life difficulties are behind you, then your only option in this moment is to choose love. That’s right—you must realize that love is more than a feeling that comes over you in special moments, like when a child is born, or you have a loving encounter with someone. Rather, love is a choice.
I know it doesn’t always feel like that. But realizing that you have the power to choose love—not once, but over and over again, no matter what your life circumstances—is your most empowering ability and strength.
Each and every time you choose love—especially when it’s a really hard choice—you are looking circumstance in the eye and saying, “You aren’t going to control me. There is a power within me that’s stronger than you.”
Also, you come to realize that even the best life circumstances in the physical, material world will come to pass. Therefore, the only thing of value that you can cultivate in this life is your ability to transcend human sadness, greed and fear, by increasing your connection to that which is greater than the collective and individual human wound.
If coming from love feels like it is a goal too lofty to achieve, especially when you are feeling small, angry and weak, then the words that may resonate for you more are “choosing goodness.” You intuitively know what it means to be guided by goodness and to make a better choice.
Whether that means taking the time to prepare a small, delicious, healthy and balanced meal for yourself instead of grabbing a handful of chips, or sending a blessing to someone who may be upset with you, your authentic Self knows when you are taking the higher road. It is a completely personal thing, but then personal growth is truly an inside job.
That’s why it’s essential for you to become a student of yourself and learn the words, thoughts and actions that are triggers for you. Study your own impulses. Do certain internal images or external experiences cause you to want to react in old, self-defeating ways?
If so, plug into your inner power by practicing whatever form of self-hypnosis helps you to connect to your deepest strength. By mustering up that inner fortitude, it’s easier to choose a higher, better response. Each time you do this, you are one step closer to creating a healthier relationship with yourself and with the world around you. But most importantly, you are starting to see the truth about yourself:
You are beautiful, powerful, and a force for good in this world. Isn’t it time to tap into the power of your subconscious mind so you know this to be true?
Rena Greenberg, a Hay House author, can be reached at EasyWillpower.com Her weight loss and gastric bypass hypnosis success has been featured in 150-plus news stories including USA Today, Woman’s World, The Doctor’s, CNN, Good Morning America and Nightline. PBS stations nationally aired Rena’s show, “Easy Willpower,” in August 2015. Her wellness program is sponsored in 75 hospitals and 100-plus corporations. She conducts hypnotherapy sessions with people all over the world on Skype and in Sarasota, FL.