How to Find Your Inner Security

By Rev. Spencer Rouse

There is only one way to find ultimate inner security and balance. It is by connecting to your deep inner self—your inner light—your pure essence. This essence is part of the ultimate reality—Source—All That Is.

When we truly know ourselves at this deep level, it gives us a strong platform within so we can face changes with comfort and assurance in our external world. We have a sense that we can deal with whatever is coming our way with confidence. We can embrace the change rather than becoming a victim of it. We operate from a position of personal power and control that supersedes any earthly dilemma or misfortune.

How do we get there from where we happen to be on this journey? Trial and error is a popular way, although it is fraught with drama and pain. A lifetime on earth gives each person the chance to create, interact with others, and explore nuances and possibilities about life and each other. We experiment with life’s choices in unique and personal ways. We fumble around, following guidelines from our family’s culture and values, religious teachings, and the desire for satisfaction from the material world. Most of us learn a lot about what does NOT make us happy, and if we have the courage, we learn from experience and try something different next time we have an opportunity for growth.

The Hard Way

Let’s look at an example: Sally’s background taught her to work hard, become self-supporting, and care for others in need. She gave the needs of her husband, children, and aging parents high priority, even as she worked her way through a business degree. She became organized, efficient, and stressed. There was little time in her life to take a walk by herself on the beach or sit and play with her young children without planning the next day’s activities. She knew the most efficient way to handle the details of living in the material world, but she did not take the time to enjoy or really understand the people around her. She did not take time to renew herself very often. One day she was called to help an ailing cousin who had very few family members available to assist. Sally went willingly, although this relative had a reputation for being difficult and contrary. Sally cooked, cleaned, ran errands, and implemented a few changes to make life easier for her cousin. She understood that the cousin was used to being independent and was frustrated and conflicted with this unexpected turn of events. She had a real need for assistance, but that was at odds with her former lifestyle of freedom. If someone upset her, she blasted them—period. Sally went about making arrangements, checking with the querulous invalid, but moving quickly to put plans in order. The relative was more accustomed to disorganization and making changes only after deliberating on the downside of each possibility. Usually she procrastinated until the necessary change was forced on her, and she vented on City Hall, the fire department, her broker, her lawyer or whoever else was the messenger.

Then the inevitable happened. The cousin was put in a position to make an important decision she was not ready to make and violently blasted Sally and other people involved. Sally was stunned and hurt, but she realized that she had been attempting to implement changes more quickly than could be assimilated by the invalid. She was actually shocked into looking at her efficiency from another perspective. There was no real need to move so quickly. It was simply HER way of handling things. Her relative made the point, “I make my own choices. I may not make the best choices, but they are MY choices to make and I make them when I am ready.”

Finally, Sally had some realizations and changed how she behaved going forward by asking herself some important questions: How often do we do this to others? Make the assumption that our way is the right way, without being sensitive to others? How often do we judge what others say and do, especially when we do not have the full picture? How often do we interfere with the rights of others “for their own good?” The backlash often comes with drama and pain. Indeed, Sally learned the hard way, through trial and error.

The Gentle Way

There is a more gentle way available to us. Daily meditation, disciplining our wandering minds to come back to center by focusing on our breath, and simply quieting ourselves long enough that we feel our essence before starting to make decisions, especially with regard to others.

There is nothing wrong with starting out at only five or 10 minutes at a time, until a rhythm is established. Later, it helps to meditate for longer periods, perhaps 30 minutes, an hour, or whatever feels sufficient to us.

There are other tools like affirmations, astrology, tarot, sound, and color that help us access the deeper aspects of ourselves. At the end of the day, we learn to look within for the answers. When we look within, we see who and what we are. Finding the light within is as simple as recognizing that we are it and holding onto that.

When we can do that, we become more peaceful and balanced from the inside out. We develop our inner security—the space where we need to be to make strong changes. If we depend on external sources for security (friends, job, position in society, etc.) and they do not come through for us, we can easily fall into victimhood and the blame game.

We must release, victimhood to become a sovereign entity on earth. We have to be in control of our own lives. It is better to ask, “How can I change this? Not, who else can change this for me?” Or, to stop looking “out there” for who was responsible for this current disaster that has befallen me. We have been programmed not to trust ourselves—to be disempowered—not to trust our intuition. It takes practice to shatter the energetic blocks we have constructed that separate us from our pure, true essence. It takes courage to understand, and then act on the guidance from our own inner light.

If we proactively confront our limitations we can flow with the tides of change rather than waste our efforts pushing back against the waves that have been created by others.

We have been programmed to be average and to fit in. We need to let go from all that has been holding us back and look within for our answers. They are there. They always have been there for us to access.

Dive deep into the waters of the universe and learn to swim with effortless ease. Learn to speak your truth. Follow your inner light. When change comes, realize that it is an adjustment that you can handle. It is natural and a process of readjustment. You will know what to do and when to do it. Trust divine guidance and you will find your inner security.

Rev. Spencer Rouse has been a psychic medium, teacher, counselor, writer and healer for more than 25 years. She recently completed her Level 1 and 2 studies of Acoustic Sound, Color, and Body Movement with Fabien Maman (Father of Vibrational Sound Therapy) at the Tama-do Academy in Malibu, and Switzerland. Spencer teaches “Soul to Soul” classes in Sarasota, FL, which focus on how to tune into the true self through the tools of sound, color, and ancient teachings. She also will be presenting an interactive class focused on color, sound and Chi in relation to healing this winter. For more information visit, email or call 941-706-1005.

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