Opening to True Unconditional Love

By Rev. Spencer Rouse

Unconditional Love is the underlying creative force of the Universe. It is the vibration that encourages us to be true to our own unique selves. It is always there for us, but we have to understand how to harmonize with it and how to entrain to it. Once we do, the ability to access that Unconditional Love always resides within us.

The more we relax into the peace that comes with Unconditional Love, the more accepting we become of ourselves; we are less judgmental and more understanding. The stronger the acceptance and love of ourselves, the more we can accept and honor others who are different from us. As a result, we do not feel as personally challenged by those who disagree with us. We learn to accept different perspectives from our own; they are not necessarily better, but seen as another interesting addition to our general understanding of life.

In life, we develop from confronting our challenges. By focusing on an opposing point of view, we open to new solutions. The more we can encounter challenges while connecting with Unconditional Love, the easier and faster we can absorb the new and different into our understanding.

When we are in balance and able to access Unconditional Love, we accomplish our goals quickly.

Many people will find this concept difficult to understand. They have been trained to struggle and sacrifice to achieve their goals. Work harder and longer than the others to succeed. That is the traditional American way. However, this approach creates imbalances within us and our environments. When one aspect of life is emphasized to the point that other important aspects are neglected, some part of our physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual selves suffers. Tension is created, and we develop resistance to what is different from our beliefs. When we are in balance, we can relax. When we relax, we release resistance. When we release resistance, we open access to more and better ideas, and our intuition opens wider and connects us with Unconditional Love.

Resistance is the only thing that keeps us from the Unconditional love and freedom that come with stepping into our own power. Without resistance, we can observe without judging. We accept differences between ourselves and others, and we can choose to learn from these differences. As we gain in understanding, we learn to work with differences between ourselves and others and harmonize our efforts without rejecting part of who we are.

A Tale of Two Sisters

Let us look at the experience of two sisters for an example of how this process works in everyday life. The younger sister is focused, taking on every challenge and moving through them step by step in a logical, methodical manner. As she encounters obstacles in her path, she pushes through them, walks around them, or pummels them to nothingness, and then she continues on. Sometimes she is exhausted from the effort, and she has developed a few health issues, but she has goals in mind and is determined to meet these goals. And then she works constantly to top her last goals. She achieves power and control over others along the way, and material success is hers. She has learned much from the challenges in her life. She is organized, efficient, and very detailed in her methods. She has a sharp tongue for those who defy her, and a facile mind ready to answer those who challenge her ideas.

Although she has high energy and sense of humor that draws people to her in social situations, she carries a certain impatience, as well as an imperious attitude, into visits with her birth family. She feels accepted by friends, but she still holds onto resistance against her family. She was the younger sister and considered less intelligent than her older sister. She felt betrayed by the family attitude, and she felt a constant, although not completely conscious, need to exceed her sister’s successes. While she was at ease with the organized structure set by the family, her ability to love herself for herself often faltered.

The other sister grew up expanding her horizons through reading and dreaming. She made high As in school for the most part with little studying. She dreamed of limitless boundaries, the arts, and, with rare exceptions, enjoyed diverse personalities. Unfortunately, the family pattern was set up on structure and routine. She developed ways of working around the inconvenient routine, without actually disobeying the rules. Once, when she was in the fifth grade, she went home with a lonely classmate. The girl’s dresses were faded and her hair was unkempt. Partly from compassion, partly from a sense of adventure, the older sister rode the bus to her classmate’s house without advance permission and called her mother from there. The house was disheveled, with only a few basic pieces of tattered furniture. A baby was crawling around on the floor with a soggy diaper. The mother of the friend groaned from bed and asked her daughter to start supper.

The situation was somewhat alarming for this sister, who lived with structure and order. She had never seen a house that was not clean and neat, and it was almost frightening to see her young friend start cooking supper on her own. Perhaps this was too much freedom? Her mother always supervised everything. Perhaps some boundaries were good? This sister never repeated the incident, but she never lost her fascination with people who were in some way different from her, and she never lost her enthusiasm for spur of the moment adventures. She grew up a compassionate peacemaker and developed an intuitive understanding of people and what made them unique. However, it was difficult for her to fit into the routines and expectations of her family and a corporate career.

As the sisters grew, their differences grew. The younger sister was not open to compromise, and the older sister grew weary of peacemaking. Years passed with little communication between the two sisters. Both grew through their individual challenges, and as the years passed some of the resistance that each had developed began to relax. Without each other, they felt isolated from the love and laughter that had bonded the family unit. Then a challenge presented itself, and it also proved to be an opportunity to reconnect with true Unconditional Love—one that the sisters embraced,

A close family member was diagnosed with cancer. Because of timing, it fell on the younger sister to be physically present in doctors’ offices, emergency room, and hospital. She consciously adopted an attitude of respect and good humor, which was an effort since the relative was elderly and extremely resistant. In return, she received respect and gratitude in abundance from this sick aunt. At the same time, the older sister was responsible for some less physically active duties, and the younger sister recognized her sister’s part and consciously showed respect and gratitude. It was obvious that she had chosen not to continue the rift with her older sister. During the stressful experience, the two women enjoyed reconnecting and relating many family stories, new and old, especially with groups of friends and family. Hard attitudes melted with the laughter that kept rolling.

During this process, the Unconditional Love that the sisters were able to access for the family and each other in years past began to reemerge as they chose to focus on supporting each other and the elderly family members through this crisis, rather than dwell on their differences and resentments.

The moral of the story? When we make peace with whom or what we deem in opposition to us, it does not mean that we are giving way. By exposing ourselves to the problem, we will allow a solution to come forward from that vast store of Unconditional Love that we all have access to in our vast universe.

Rev. Spencer Rouse has been a psychic medium, teacher, counselor, writer and healer for more than 25 years. She recently completed her Level 1 and 2 studies of Acoustic Sound, Color, and Body Movement with Fabien Maman (Father of Vibrational Sound Therapy) at the Tama-do Academy in Malibu, and Switzerland. Spencer teaches “Soul to Soul” classes in Sarasota, FL, which focus on how to tune into the true self through the tools of sound, color, and ancient teachings. She also will be presenting an interactive class focused on color, sound and Chi in relation to healing this winter. For more information visit www.psychicspencer.com, email PsychicSpencer@yahoo.com or call 941-706-1005.


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