The common denominator
Happy Holidays, Awesome Allowers!
With more and more diversity within our families, the workplace, and our circle of friends, it can be quite the task to for a multicultural soul of the 21st century to stay happy and sane during the holiday season, while sharing love and respect for all. But, perhaps the answer is FAR simpler that you may have thought…
Let’s take a look at a few of the holidays of the season and see if we can find a common denominator:
Christmas: The celebration of the birth of Jesus of Nazareth and the light of Christ coming into the world.
Chanukkah: The “Festival of Lights,” a celebration of the rededication of the Temple and miracle of the oil.
Yule/Winter Solstice/Saturnalia: The celebration of the beginning of longer days, the “rebirth” of the sun and expansion of the light.
Kwanzaa: The celebration of family, community and culture, igniting and maintaining the light of cooperation and harmony.
Bodhi Day/Rohatsu, “Day of Enlightenment”: The celebration of the day that the historical Buddha, Siddhartha Gautama, experienced enlightenment and the potential for all to be awakened.
Pancha Ganapati: The celebration of Lord Ganesha and his key aspects, focused on color, prayer and special practices that promote the light of peace, creativity, culture, harmony, and understanding.
Human Light: A secular “Humanist” holiday that celebrates the light of reason, compassion, humanity, and hope.
Newtonmas: A secular holiday celebrating the birth of Sir Isaac Newton and the light of knowledge he brought to the world.
Boxing Day: A day dedicated to honoring people in the service industry who give so much throughout the holiday season which promotes the light of appreciation.
New Year’s Eve: The celebration of the coming of a new year and the opportunity for new beginnings, punctuated by lighting up the night sky with fireworks.
What does every celebration have in common? In one word: LIGHT.
No matter how you slice any of these celebrations, in one form or another, every single one has core intention to help fellow humans discover, enhance, celebrate, and walk a path of light. Just like all daily practices, goals, and habits, all holiday traditions really are a means to experience an end result of joy/love/clarity, and relationship harmony (aka light). So perhaps THE Ultimate TRADITION is whatever helps YOU feel and experience your own version of light?
Here are a few Holiday and EVERYday traditions that just may ignite the light in your spirit, heart, relationships, and mind:
Prioritize Your Joy and Well-Being once and for all, for the BENEFIT of ALL: Create and revisit a “Feel-Good Focus List.”
Make a list of things that are always EASY to love, such as your pets, aspects of nature, favorite places, super-happy memories, etc.
Keep a copy next to your bed and one that you can bring with you in a purse, pocket or briefcase, smart phone/etc.
Upon waking, read and allow yourself to FEEL the love, fun and ease of the items on your list.
If you feel yourself starting to slip from your feel-good groove during the day—or if you already feel good and want to feed your Mojo of Fabulosity—read your list and do this as often as feels good and appropriate to you.*
Read your list just before going to bed or while preparing for sleep, to redirect a stressed mind and to go to sleep with calm, happy thoughts.
BTW: No matter how busy you are, nature will always call eventually, so when you take your “powder room” breaks or stop to eat, keep you list handy to read during these times to give yourself the gift of an attitude adjustment, or little “lift” even when your schedule is packed. YOU and everyone interacting with you will be glad you did!
Appreciate the good that IS and what IS working: Put Appreciation in Writing
After you have awakened and read your “Feel-Good Focus List,” take just a few minutes to focus upon what you CAN and DO appreciate about your NOW. While simply thinking thoughts of gratitude/appreciation is certainly a great thing to do, taking five minutes (or more) to actually put some things in writing (via paper and pen, laptop/tablet/etc.) helps your mind to stay focused. You also create your own evidence of the good that IS that you can revisit as needed! Plus, when you start your day with an attitude of appreciation and do this consistently, you create some kickin’ positive momentum that really can keep a happy holiday spirit rollin’ EVERY day!
Give what you CAN, not what you CAN’T.
When you give during the holiday season, be it gifts of time, focus, or the kind in shiny boxes and bags, give what you CAN, not what you can’t. Hurting yourself emotionally, spiritually, physically, or financially does not a happy holiday (or gift) make! Think about this:
- If someone is attending your function or helping with a holiday happening, would you rather have someone who is exhausted and stressed and who is only there because s/he feels obligated and secretly resents being there, OR would you prefer having the help and company of someone who is truly clear-minded, happy, and excited about being there?
- Would you rather receive an expensive but extremely impersonal “guilt gift” or receive something special that had all kinds of love invested in it – even if is “only” a handmade gift or card?
- When you feel love, you then truly HAVE love to give. When you feel clear and focused, this is when you can contribute mightily to anything you touch, and anyone who interacts with you is better for it. So if you want to give a gift that TRULY keeps on giving, do whatever it takes for YOU to feel good first, THEN give the awesomeness you CAN give.
The Bottom Line on Allowing YOUR Success with THE Ultimate Holiday TRADITION
Though many years (and even millennia) have passed since the creation of the myriad celebrations of December, do keep in mind that EVERY holiday is supposed to be a time of joy in some form or fashion. When you replace joy with obligation or stress, you actually do the OPPOSITE of what was intended! If you truly want to honor a TRADITION of love, harmony, understanding, peace, and the like, embrace the actions/practices that contribute to YOUR experience of JOY.
You contribute far more to those you love through your alignment and joy than you ever could through your pain, struggle, or guilt. So if you’re going to give of your time, energy, money, or focus, give yourself and the world the BEST of you by first BEING a LIGHT, for then you CAN truly SHINE and SHARE the LIGHT.
Why not create and perpetuate a tradition of happy holidays EVERY day?!
“This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…”—Harry Dixon Loes
Terez Hartman is the author of Allowing Your Success!, a professional Keynote Speaker/Workshop Facilitator, Singer-Songwriter/Recording Artist, “Allowing Adventures!” & “Savor Vacation” Facilitator, true Renaissance Woman and Visionary. She has spent the majority of her life consciously working with the Law of Attraction and “Allowing,” and owes her many years of ever-increasing professional success, constant flow of creativity, vibrant health, many extraordinary adventures, amazing relationships with positive-minded, “cream-of-the-crop” human beings and—what she feels to be her greatest allowing achievement—her extraordinary “soul-mate” marriage, to truly practicing what she teaches in her writings, presentations, adventures and music. Visit: www.AllowingYourSuccess.com or www.AllowingAdventures.com