By Sarah A. Sparks
It became apparent to me that I needed to write about trusting yourself. This happened a couple of months ago when a burning desire within my heart felt like it was missing. I can’t pinpoint the exact moment I became hungry and malnourished, but I can tell you this…I know from past feelings and experiences how I fed the hunger of my spirit: I trusted myself.
When was a time in your life you knew with every fiber of your being something was off?
You couldn’t put your finger on it, but you knew something could be better and it would be if only… if only…if only there was a way.
While passing by the television I heard a popular country music singer say, “The easiest way to trust someone is to simply trust them.” I chuckled to myself as I heard this because it does seem pretty easy to just trust. On the other hand, we question the intentions of others, we rearrange our lives so we don’t get hurt, and we put up emotional walls to protect and shield us from the negativity around us.
Yet, I must ask: Is it necessary to question, shield, and rearrange our lives so we don’t get hurt by others? How do we create this trust? What would our lives look like if we stop hurting ourselves first? What would happen if we trusted ourselves, fed our spirit with the respect, gratitude, and joy it is hungry for, instead of placing our concerns on others?
Today, I share with you three steps to trust yourself.
Release the individuals in your life who do not support and love you for who you desire to be.
This is a necessary step to complete first because you are setting the boundaries for success, for the healthy relationships you desire, and paving the way of your fruitful harvest to feed your spirit with trust.
Stop. Look in the mirror. Who do you see? Are you the person you love, respect, and admire?
So often we forget to see where we currently are when we are trying to get to where we want to be. We forget who we are and place unreasonable expectations on ourselves when, in fact, all we have to do is stop, breathe, and acknowledge the good within our very being. Set the intention to stop and look in the mirror every night before you go to bed to acknowledge and appreciate who you see in the mirror. You are a wonderful person. Know this, for what you focus on grows.
Follow through with what you said you would do, when you said you would do it, and how you said it would be done.
Doing what you said you would do isn’t about proving anything to another person. Being accountable to your word makes a bold statement to yourself that you respect and honor yourself enough to follow through and be the person you said you are. Putting your word into action screams to yourself, I trust you. I trust you. I TRUST YOU!
Feed the hunger of your spirit by trusting yourself today. Today, tomorrow, and always trust; simply trust.
Namaste, my friends.
Sarah A. Sparks, MPA, is the speaker and relationship mentor for Create The Spark, LLC. Sarah has her BA in Human Resource Management, a certificate in Training: Design and Development from the University of Northern Iowa, as well as a MPA from Drake University. Sarah worked as a leader for two local governments in Iowa from 2004-2010, in the capacity of an Operations Transit Supervisor and Safety Coordinator, and as a Parks and Recreation Director. While serving these communities, Sarah mentored and trained numerous employees. Through this experience, she discovered the belief in one’s self is what limits someone from creating the life she desires. From that point onward, Sarah made it her mission to guide those who want to be mentored to create the life they desire by having the confidence and trust in themselves to make the right decision and say what they need to say, with love! Email Sarah at createthespark@gmail.com or visit www.createthespark.org.
Namaste.