By Gregg Sanderson
Resolved: No More New Year’s Resolutions
A New Year’s Resolution is like an envelope. It doesn’t matter what’s inside, you’re licked before you start.
They’re great if you like guilt. They don’t last long, and the more you have invested in them, the more guilt you can enjoy when you break ‘em. I’d always be sure to break one by 1:00 a.m. so I can have the guilt out of the way by sunup.
To make a resolution, you have to assume there’s something wrong with you, and you need to fix it. Most involve some limitation or excess where you’ve accepted a belief that it’s unhealthy or undesirable.
Put energy behind what you really really want to change, and you affirm there’s something really really wrong with you.
You focus on your “imperfection” instead of the result you want. You say “I resolve to quit smoking” instead of “My lungs are clean, food tastes better and I smell good.”
For example, suppose I want to get my body into shape, and I forget that “round” is also a shape. I resolve to lose 20 pounds and eat only healthy food. Then, when I sit down to a meal I think of my resolution. Am I affirming that I’m too fat and anything that tastes good is bad for me? In a sense, I sure am.
Instead, I could visualize my body weighing (fill in the blank) pounds in perfect health no matter what I eat and create my affirmations accordingly. “Hot fudge sundaes dissolve fat cells” might be a bit extreme, but you get the idea.
Then there’s our old friend Justassoonas. “I’ll be happy just as soon as:
• I have enough money
• I lose some weight
• I find the love of my life
• I dump this loser
Etcetera. Etcetera. Etcetera.”
It all boils down to “Justassoonas I get my ducks in a row.” Well, let me tell you about ducks.
Imagine a mama duck rounding up the kids to go for a swim. The li’l ducklings are wandering all over the place doing this or that, and mama faces a daunting task to line them all up.
So, what does she do? She just starts walking toward the water, and as if by magic, all the babies line up behind her.
That’s how the Universe works, too.
Take a lesson from mama duck. If you want something different in your life, start moving toward it with your destination in mind. Amazing things happen as your “life ducks” line up in a row behind you.
I received this post from a friend this very day as I write this column. Coincidence?
A little over a year ago, I was working 13 hour days in a soul-sucking Wall Street job. I was drinking too much, eating too much, had no social life, nothing to look forward to and was completely miserable in who I had become.
This past year year (literally ONE YEAR) I have…
* Left the corporate world to create an incredible coaching business
* Brought in almost 6-figures!
* Married the man of my dreams
* Developed a community of like-minded, supportive, awesome, women
* Travelled all over the world for pleasure and trainings…Bali, Costa Rica, Japan, Mexico, NYC, LA
I say this with no ego, no self-promoting bragging…but with PURE FREAKING AWESOME LOVE because I want to share with you that it’s possible.
— Julie Santiago (Juliesantiago.com)
Julie is a fellow trainer with Infinite Possibilities. What an inspiration!
This year, instead of a New Year’s Resolution, make your New Year’s Revolution and visualize the outcome you want instead of what you think you need to be, do, or have to achieve it.
Ignore your Justassoonas and take baby steps in that direction. You’ll get there before you know it.
No, wait! You’ll know it before you get there.
Gregg Sanderson has a rare view of the metaphysical universe. He traveled the road from Christian Science through Judaism, Agnosticism, Atheism, Living Love, Psychic Development, Spiritualism, Teaching of the Inner Christ, all the way to the International Centers for Spiritual Living where he is a licensed practitioner. He is the author of What Ever Happened To Happily Ever After? and Split Happens – Easing the Pain of Divorce. Gregg’s latest book is Spirit With A Smile — The World According to BOB (www.Transformation-Publishing.com) gregg@spiritwithasmile.com.