During today’s stressful economic and social times, I want to remind you how important it is to stay focused on the positive things you want your life to represent.
If you aren’t sure of your direction, you are likely to be thrown off by every curve in the road—an unexpected busy schedule at work, a family member getting sick or a crisis in the world.
To avoid that tendency, it’s absolutely essential to consciously choose your direction and purpose and create constructive habits to support your life’s vision.
Everything you do in your life has the potential to become a life pattern. As a result, it’s necessary for you to reflect on your choices—the things you do, the words you speak, and the thoughts that are running through your mind—to make sure that if they become habits they will be the thoughts, actions and words that support your dreams and passions in this world.
The great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said,
“Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.”
Sometimes it’s tempting to discount positive thinking because it doesn’t last. In my view, that is all the more reason to persist with it. After all, what is the alternative?
If chronic negative or delusional thinking becomes habitual, it can lead to mental illness.
Your bad habits can be challenging to break because they are etched into your subconscious mind as “normal.” Fearful, sad, anxious, unproductive or angry thinking can become an identity and color your whole reality in darkness.
Open to Love and a Higher Perspective
There is only one antidote for mental and emotional pain, and that is Love. Likewise, the only remedy for your personal suffering is love and adopting a new attitude. Whether you are struggling with your weight, a relationship or emotional pain, the cure is opening to a higher perspective within yourself—one that allows you to connect to and feel a greater love all around you—a state that encompasses all of you.
This greater level of awareness can become available to you through prayer, meditation, communing with nature, or self-hypnosis. To successfully engage in these activities, it is necessary to ask your highest level of consciousness to show you and grant you wiser, more loving and truer thoughts, words and actions. The final step, then, is to act on your highest insights and that is often where it becomes necessary to pray for courage and strength.
Prayer “works” much like positive thinking. It is not a formula in and of itself for life change, but rather a means to help you to make the changes you need to make. If you would like to lose 30 pounds, you may pray for guidance and through that prayer come to see that you are overeating as a way to justify your sorrow left over from a lifetime of disappointments. However, you may still be in the habit of pulling into McDonalds whenever you pass the golden arches, or making a beeline for the bakery section of your local grocery store despite your promise to yourself to stick to the items on your shopping list.
That doesn’t mean that your prayer isn’t working. It means that you have not taken the next step yet, which is to reprogram your thinking to do things differently than you have in the past. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting different results. Yet, isn’t that what so many of us do in our own lives?
For example, if you want to avoid fast food places and bakeries, you have to condition yourself to see yourself and food in a new way. If telling yourself, “I’ll just have this one little piece,” or “I’ll only eat this one more time and then never again,” is something you’ve done hundreds of times only to watch your waistline grow larger by the minute, it’s time to use a new tactic.
It’s time to change your inner thinking so you just don’t want those foods anymore. This is absolutely possible. It is just as easy to convince yourself that you need to eat ice cream as it is to remember that you don’t want ice cream anymore. It’s just a different thought habit.
Thought habits create habits of action.
This is true in all areas of our lives. What we focus on grows. If you focus on your loneliness, you are likely to feel even more lonely. If you constantly remember the pain someone inflicted on you, that anguish will be amplified. What makes these facts even more challenging is that the human mind tends to default to the negative. That’s why more than ever you need to flood your mind with positive and productive thoughts and remember all the good that has touched and guided your life.
The part of you that wants to convince you that the positive is less true than the negative is simply the dominating nature of the darkest part of the human self. The truth is that the light and the dark both exist, but the quality of your life will be completely different depending on which part of the self and the world you allow to drive you.
As Zig Ziglar reminded us so beautifully, motivation doesn’t last. However, motivation, faith and positive thinking are essential if we want to be uplifted and live the highest level of life possible for ourselves, whether that be in the area of health, relationships, work or contributions to society.
What we experience with our five senses each day can leave us feeling hopeless at times.
And yet, where there is darkness, there is always the counterbalance of light. Where there is sadness, there must be hope. Where there are self-defeating habits and painful consequences, there is the possibility for healing, transformation and being uplifted.
You cannot make significant changes in your life view focusing only on the conscious mind, or you already would have made them. You need to go within each day, practicing whatever form of self-hypnosis, prayer, or meditation that makes you comfortable. Go beyond the chattering, fearful, repetitive mind and connect with your vast, beautiful, loving heart. There, see yourself and your life and all the “characters” in your drama with greater compassion and the highest intentions. Remember the good that you and the other players in your life have rendered and will continue to offer in the days, weeks, months, and years to come. See yourself happy, strong, healthy, generous, safe, prosperous and connected with all of life.
Know this is a turning point for you and make a decision to take the highest road—to choose the thoughts, words and actions that will lead to the greater outcome you desire. As the great Mahatma Ghandi taught,
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Rena Greenberg is the author of The Right Weigh: Six Steps to Permanent Weight Loss, which is used by over 100,000 People (Hay House Publishing) and The Craving Cure: Break the Hold Carbs and Sweets Have on Your Life (McGraw-Hill). She conducts weight loss seminars using hypnosis at hospitals throughout the country and has a private hypnosis practice specializing in gastric bypass hypnosis in Sarasota. She can be reached online at www.EasyWillpower.com or at 800-848-2822.