By Mary Boutieller
Sometimes we just have to make the space for our own healing.
Throughout our time on the planet, events happen that can unhinge the solidness, the sureness of our lives and, when those things happen, we know to slow down and wait for the storms to pass. When everything is calm, we tend to go about our lives on a pretty even keel, humming along our merry way. So recently, with all apparently going well, I found it hard to explain why I suddenly felt unmoored without a reason that I could name. I just felt a little sad, a little in-between things.
As is my habit (I’m ashamed to admit), I might first try to ignore these things. If they persist, I will deny their existence and brush away the sensations like an irritating gnat. Then, I’ll get very, very busy, thinking that whatever “this” is, it will see it’s being shunned and go away. Finally though and pretty much always, I have to stop what I’m doing and be with the uncomfortableness of it all. Does anyone remember the song lyrics: “Feelings, nothing more than feelings?” Ughh!
Of course, in hindsight, I can see lots of reasons why I might have felt unsteady. As Jerry Lee Lewis famously sang, there’s a “whole lotta shakin’ goin’ on” in the world! As sentient beings, we can’t help but tap into the general consciousness of the world around us. The question is: How do we handle these times in the healthiest way possible for our highest and best good?
Eckhart Tolle said, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”
Once we strip away the nonsense and the distractions that move us further away from our present moment experience, we can move toward it and try to understand what’s going on inside. Instead of rationalizing and intellectualizing it, I had to move into my sweet little emotional heart and just feel it. I had to acknowledge it—I had to say it out loud. And I had to be okay with it instead of trying to change it. The truth is, I was feeling ungrounded. It was as simple as that.
So what did I do about it? I did lots of little things to nurture myself: I slowed down, did some yoga, took naps and long showers. I hugged on my sweetie, talked with close friends, and didn’t expect too much from myself until I had settled back into my own skin…until I felt that the world and I were going to be okay once again. Sometimes we just have to make the space for our own healing.
Martha Postlewaite wrote, “Do not try to save the world or do anything grandiose. Instead, create a clearing in the dense forest of your life and wait there patiently, until the song that is your life falls into your own cupped hands and you recognize and greet it. Only then, will you know how to give yourself to this world so worthy of rescue.”
What is it that you do to ground yourself in the “dense forest of your life?” To whom do you reach out when the road you are on feels a little shaky? Is there a poem that sings your song, a movement that feeds your body, a place (or person) that you call home over and over again? Go there, be there, breathe there, and realize that you have always been okay.
As independent beings, we forget that it’s necessary for our own well-being to reach out to others, even if it is just to hear ourselves think out loud. Loved ones hold that space for us, books help us understand the journey, music frees our soul’s imagination, and life itself presents gifts right in front of our eyes. We just have to be open to it…to all of it.
As you start your day today, let it be a reminder of our interdependence, our connection and our need for each other. Let us remember that the tapestry of our amazing lives is made from one thread joined beautifully to another.
And the next time you are feeling a little blue, take some time to go within, then reach out. Your friends, your teachers, the Universe is waiting.
Mary Boutieller is a Registered Yoga Teacher through Yoga Alliance. She has been teaching yoga since 2005. Her work experience includes 22 years as a firefighter/paramedic and 10 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist. Mary’s knowledge and experience give her a well-rounded understanding of anatomy, alignment, health and movement in the body. She is passionate about the benefits of yoga and the ability to heal at all levels through awareness, compassion, and a willingness to explore. She can be reached at: SimplyogaOm@gmail.com.